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    Posted March 12, 2013 by
    Hebron, Kentucky
    This iReport is part of an assignment:
    Work and family: Making it work

    Mom-cop, Dad-stay at home attorney?

    I am a mom to 3 kids ages 6, 3, and 1. I also work full time as a federal law enforcement officer. That's right, I'm a pistol packing momma!! My husband has a law degree, but stays home with the kids full time. He's our in "in-house counsel"! What a story our life is! While I'm at work investigating criminal activites, he's at home taking our daughter to ballet, helping our son with his homework, preparing dinner, and doing the laundry. Since my husband stays home with the kids, I'm afforded every opportunity to advance my career so you'd think "I'd have it all". So why do I dread Monday mornings? Why do I cry just about every morning I leave my kids for work? Because deep down, no matter how much opportunity is afforded me, I'm a mom through and through. If it wasn't for my husband being able to stay at home with the kids, I would have quit my job, sold our house and started over again so I could be home with them. The guilt I have about leaving my kids everyday would have been compounded if I had to leave them with a daycare provider. In other words, I couldn't do it. Growing up I was never exposed to the notion of mothering being a job as my parents both worked full time. It was "when you graduate from college and find a great job, you'll be happy", not "when you get married and become a mother, you'll be happy". I feel like as women we forget to teach our daughters that being a mom is a vocation that only we can be and that our daughters should explore the idea of motherhood as a vocation as much as they consier other jobs outside the home. I think women should be afforded EVERY opportunity equally, including motherhood. Because no matter how successful we are in the workplace, someone still has to clean the house, go to the grocery, pick up the dry cleaning, pay the bills, cut the grass, etc. Sure we can pay other people to do the grunt work, but then you have to ask yourself, "Am I working to pay other people to work for me?" That sounds pretty depressing.
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