My daughter came out as being bi-sexual about six months ago at age 14. She has a girlfriend, and about two months ago, I took her to church with us. At that time, the church didn't have any idea, but my daughter and her girlfriend had said that they felt uncomfortable and judged for their behavior. I told them that they would have to expect that if they wish to be together as a couple because people, even though there have been great reforms and more acceptance, still do not accept it when they see a couple like them together, ESPECIALLY at their age (my daughter is 14 and her girlfriend is 17). Of course I told them the rules apply just like they were a guy and girl dating, nothing is different for me, but my in-laws have a VERY different view of how my daughter should live her life. One of their favorite quotes to my daughter is "God made Adam and EVE, not Adam and STEVE." Although my husband claims he has no problem with her sexuality, he is one of the first to run and point the finger and chide her, telling her that God is going to send her to Hell and punish her because of her choice in a partner, that she better be careful because she's going to get her a__ beat someday. It has been heartbreaking for me to endure this from my husband and some of his family, they have been very judgemental, using religion and the bible as their base to ridicule her...they talk to her about how God burned Soddom and Gamorrah because "men were laying with men and women were laying with women", and that God saw how wrong it was and destroyed them for it, and that is what's going to happen to all who do things like that. They ask her "Do you want to go to Heaven? Well then stop your evil ways and repent to God.." and it has turned my daughter against God. I have told her that God will accept her for who she is, "don't be afraid of who you are because you are a bright shining light, and your choice of a partner does not snuff your light out." It has turned my head as far as religion goes, I was brought up strict Roman Catholic, baptized at age 4, CCE classes from 8-18, Wednesday and Saturday night masses, Sunday morning classes every week, CCE classes 4 days a week. So I thought my religious standing was pretty solid. But what my daughter endures in the name of "religion" has shaken me and it's only been 6 months since she has come out that she has that inclination. I really wish the bible bangers would leave people alone that have that, I did not open that up in my daughter, but I have noted that there may had been a possibility for a long time. It did not bother me, my thought on it was "at least if nothing else, I know what goes on in High School, so perhaps the worst thing I would have to buy would be a drug test and at least it won't have to be a pregnancy test.." But I think that these religious fanatics would accept her being pregnant by the time she's 16 before they would accept that she may have a girlfriend. Sad....
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