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    Posted June 26, 2013 by
    West Palm Beach, Florida
    This iReport is part of an assignment:
    Same-sex couples react to Supreme Court rulings

    Sad State


    CNN PRODUCER NOTE     sflfunguy and his partner live in West Palm Beach, Florida, where they are unable to marry legally. sflfunguy is a funeral director, and he says he’s seen cases where a person dies and their partner is shut out of the funeral preparations. In his case, he worries about what could happen if he were to fall ill, as his parents are deceased, and his biological son is not an adult yet. He fears his partner wouldn’t be able to make the arrangements.

    “I had hoped the Supreme Court would take a bold stand and issue a ruling which would have applied broadly instead of taking the easy road and ruling on a technicality,” he said.
    - zdan, CNN iReport producer

    My partner and I are unable in Florida to legally marry or have our relationship recognized. We maintain a residence together but can't receive any of the benefits or protections a married couple enjoy.


    As a funeral director, I have seen instances when a same-sex partner passes away after being in a committed relationship only to be shut out of the funeral arrangement process or not be permitted to complete paperwork. It has resulted in individuals being reported as unclaimed bodies because no "legal" family can be located.


    In Florida, my partner has no legal standing to be with me or visit me should I be hospitalized or in critical condition. In addition, because my biological parents are deceased and my son is not of adult age, the responsibility for completing my arrangements should something happen with fall upon a biological sister whom I haven't been close with for years or my brother who has his own family.

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